That’s ok to be in real life, and those people exist and I think they’re interesting. These characters lack a sense of maleness even behind our traditional ideas of masculinity. female stereotypes inside of gay male bodies. These characters I’m talking about are like. Those people are real, I know plenty and they probably need more representation too. I’d even say it’s good to write stereotypically flamboyant gay men. I think I'm allowed to be annoyed by it, though.Įdit: Just to be clear. So whatever, maybe that fiction just isn't for me. But it's usually all you see from women writing gay men. I personally know some gay guys who maybe wouldn't do that but would do things in that ballpark. This is the perfect expression of a sort of calculated, slow-burn sexuality that is rare in gay guys and more common in women. To give you an example of unrealistic behavior: In one comic I read, when the two love interests were finally ready to have "their first time" with each other - I kid you not, they sat down next to each other and googled "how to have gay sex," clothes on, seemingly uninterested.
But those stereotypes are over-represented specifically in gay fiction written by women. I have also sometimes acted like the gay stereotypes I listed above. I have personally behaved in stupid and gross ways because of thinking with my penis, just like (some) straight guys. There are hyper-masculine gays and stereotypically feminine gays straight out of anime or something. There are some dick-brained, stupid ass gay guys out there. The villains are traditionally masculine characters. Stereotypically soft, not status driven, not very sexually active, surrounded by supportive and protective women (often self-inserts). Sometimes gay men are written as an expression of how some women wish straight men would act.
On the other hand, I think many women write gay men just as poorly as the stereotype of men writing women poorly, and it's frustrating to read. A lot of these works have changed the way I relate to my own sexuality in a very positive way. On the one hand, I'm grateful that many women have written gay fiction that I enjoy. There was a post about this a month ago, but bringing it up again. I'm a gay guy, just wanted to express frustration with the state of gay fiction, especially romantic gay fiction.